Bullying Hurts All

The fake world of Facebook and Bebo: How suicide and cyber bullying lurk behind the facade of 'harmless fun' | Mail Online

2009-08-05T14:01:00.001-04:00

I have read an article that states that teenagers do not use the social networking services. I have also read that the Roman Catholic Church is boycotting social networking due to this suicide issue and countless others. If we all boycott something due to something negative, we would not have all that much in our lives. Bullying is everywhere, and it has been around long before online social networking.

It is not journalism to say that social networking or anything is the cause of suicide. What was the excuse before the Internet. The solution of bullying is not pointing fingers at the messenger. The solution of suicide is why does these individuals think their lives are so horrible that they have end it all. Words do hurt, but there are many more people that went through a lot worse. It can be hard to step back and wait.

We all have had that little dark rain cloud over our heads. It is not fun. What I have found out with my life is that the unknown is a lot scarier than reality itself. Another words we alone can make things out a lot worse. This does not excuse the bullying. What I am saying is when we think we are alone in the world, it can make things a lot worse than it really is in life. Trust me, I have thought it was a lot worse, but when I stepped outside of the situation, I realized I had more light shinnying on me than I thought. I blinded myself, not the adversity.

With online social networking, we can easily block an account, or report an abuse activity. I cannot state what these individuals should have done that caused them to killed themselves over bullying. I cannot rightfully point fingers on no one that has listened to these teenagers. Some people just do not talk about their problems to others no matter how bad it may be. With a world that is afraid to get close to another, it is hard for a teenager to talk about their problems to others.

In our economic issues, it is very hard for family to have a “family time” together. I would not doubt that teenagers have to find a part time job to help support the family. I for one have a certificate and three diplomas in the computer field without one job interview, due to our economy. The time I have been to Lanier Technical College was between 1998-2006. It is now in the middle of 2009. I held a GPA of 3.xx. To me not being able to do much after all that hard work is very aggravating.

I worked my brains out to get a career, and POW! I do not have anything. On top of that, all that I have learned is 100% obsolete. At the time Microsoft Windows XP was new. Now MS Windows 7 is about to pop in if not already. Spite all the negativities, I am not going to give up. I am here in life for a reason.

By all the powers and energy that I have at my disposal, I will fulfill the purpose of why I am alive today. The reward of succeeding in this purpose is worth all the stumbling blocks that are at my feet. At times I should take a moment to wait till the smoke clears, like a professional baseball player will step away from the plate to reset is point of view before swinging at the next ball. How I think, any missed opportunity can be more damaging.

I simply keep moving. When I fall, I get myself up and continue my journey. Sometimes the emotional smacks can hurt worse than physical ones. We either take off from the point before we fell, or we stay on the grown and give in to all the drama. Where there is life there is hope.

Anyone that points fingers, and state that this or that is the root cause of suicide, That is not helping resolve the real issues. Instead of going around the bush over something, show courage and face the bush (the real issue at hand). Feeling sorry for self is not the right solution. Blaming others or things is not the right solution. No matter the adversity, we are responsible for the stress that enters our lives.

The fake world of Facebook and Bebo: How suicide and cyber bullying lurk behind the facade of 'harmless fun' | Mail Online

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Mother: My son was bullied before he killed himself

2009-07-08T12:57:00.001-04:00

This is happing far too much lately. The question that needs to be asked, “What are we going to do about it.” We either are going to listen to our children, or we are not.

You do not have to be parents to listen to children. What I mean by listening is to be humble enough to care for self and others. The future of the United States of America does not rely on Congress or even the President of the United States of America. It relies on our children. When we loose our children, we loose our future.

Right now it seems to be that we are going around everything in life that we need to be doing than doing the right things. Why? In the United States of America, we waste more of our natural resources than all the other nations combined. Most if not all Americans are the laziest and childish people on Earth. We need to grow the *#&@* up, and NOW!!

I am very serious. What our Forefathers have done for this country of ours is going to hell, and declining faster and faster. Congress needs to do their part as well as everyone else. Instead Congress are going against everything President Obama is doing just because he is a Democrat. What the hell in being a party member has to do with not doing the right things in government? On that note, what has rightfully happened since January 20, 2009?

The point I am making is that everything is falling apart in every direction: schools, jobs, economy, and other day-to-day living. Our children are dying by suicide. One cannot read/watching the news without learning about another teenager committing suicide. How many children will we have left after five years?

I had a friend just tell me that children are having children, and how can the right information can be given? Good question. If the trend is cascading on a 90 degree slope, then where is possibility of hope? Does this mean that the United States of America is doomed? At least this quote still stands, “Where there is life, there is hope.” I just hope that we have not crossed the path of no return.

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My bullied son's last day on Earth - CNN.com

2009-04-24T16:12:00.001-04:00

Here is a chance that the teachers of this school could have rightfully done something, but did not. I have heard people say, “If only people would talk about it.” Jaheem Herrera had done that, but no one listened or supported him enough. The ones that could have done better will have this over them for the rest of their lives.

How many times have you neglected in helping someone after they came to you for help in such matters? What do you think hurts more, your neglected or the bullying act in which they came to you in the first place? How would feel if you were this boy? The problem is not the bullying alone, but the cascading lack of love we share with children. If one cannot have love for self, then how can one have love for others? True, unconditional love is the solution.

Bullied to death: They committed suicide because of bullying

How sad and tragic for this even year old boy to kill himself when it could have been prevented at the source. How many more children must commit suicide before people of the United States of America finally do something to prevent any abuse? How can children understand what is gay other than the hatred in the homes. Parents had taught these children to hate someone that is gay or different.

Children do not understand about sex or sexual preferences. They can only respond to how they are taught by their parents. What is so bad about being gay in the first place? If two adults of the same gender want to make love in a physical manner (having sex), then they do it out of love for each other. They do not it because of a pornography movie they watched. Another words life is not a porn movie.

Children do not understand anything about sex. For one reason no one really teaches the subject to them, including their parents. What Jaheem Herrera did understand was the hate these children was throwing at him. Since no one comfort him, he did something that he thought would end the hurt. It did for him, but it will not stop bullying unless adults do something about it.

When other children see or read this story on the news, they will want to do the same unless adults do something about bullying. We can hear the cries from the ones that have been bullied if we open our mind and hearts to them. A silent person can speak volumes more than anyone. If we know more about the mannerisms of children, they will talk more than you may think.

Listen to the Children Cottage in the Country

It is interesting to me when I was growing up that people had this notion, “Children should be seen not heard.” Could it be that children realize that adults never wanted to listen to them in the first place? Could that be the reason why so many children do not speak out, and talk to adults about how they feel? Who is to blame, the children, or the adults that rather not listen to a child?

Ever heard the old saying, “A teacher can learn from the student?” If the teachers/adults stop being assholes, they might learn more about life from a child than the path(s) they are on. Who knows more about modern technology, adults or children? Children does know more than one may realize. All us adults have to do is be humble enough to listen.

No one listened to Jaheem Herrera. The result of the abuse through bullying made him believe his life was 100% meaningless. If teachers and the rest of the school system listen to him, they could have allowed Jaheem Herrera to see he had a wonderful future. Now he does not. This school system will constantly punish themselves for this crime that they could have prevented. No one will be going to a courtroom or jail. Just the same, they will feel guilty of this crime, suicide.

Mother: Bullies Drove Her Son To Suicide

My bullied son's last day on Earth - CNN.com

Marlee Matlin interview by Joy Behar -Larry Kind live

2009-04-18T14:31:00.001-04:00

part 2

After watching both parts of this interview with Marlee Matlin, I knew that I had to write a blog post in this blog. How horrible it is for someone to be abused in any manner, including bullying. Why do people want to do something like this to another. I am very happy to see that Marlee Matlin put a stop to a trend of being abusive herself.

There are reports that do show that children that were abused themselves can become abusive. I personal do not buy that ideology 100%. We make our own decisions in life. For Marlee’s life, getting the rehab help might have changed her life to what it is to day. I personally have not read her book, but I highly respect her life she has chosen for her life now. I also highly respect her choice in writing this book and telling all about what she went through in being abused.

Marlee said that one has to find the forgiveness in their heart in the aftermath of going through an abusive life. That is very true. No matter how bad someone can be treated, they will only hurt themselves more if they do not let go of the past. Forgiving is a means of doing that. The past is the past.

As Marlee said, one can escape from the abuser. There is life out there that will help one from any abuse or criminal activities. If one does escape from abuse in the home or where ever, it does not mean you will be living on the streets. We are all human beings. We have the right to escape from such treatments. If the worse scenario is living in an environment that is not as cozy as in the home, then it is much better than living with the abuse.

When the abuser states to you that your life could not be lived without them, get the hell out of there. You can do a lot better on your own than with the one that is abusing you. If you do go for help, then you will not be alone. Neighbors might not call the police when they hear all the abuse next door, but they will help if you directly ask them. The abuser may play with your mind in thinking you are alone, but you are not. There are 307,212,123 (July 2009 est.) in the United States. How can you be alone?

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YouTube - Richard Piggin speaks on Sky News

2009-04-17T14:46:00.001-04:00

Bullying has victims on both sides. As with any arguments in live, there is no such thing as one side is 100% right. Why do people bully in the first place? Parents and other family members can do the same thing. It rightfully does not make any good sense, but bullying is a big and growing thing in life today.

As in anything in life that malfunctions, it becomes a disaster in life for all that is affiliated with it. Two wrongs do not make a right turn. Instead it turns things 180 degrees around the eight ball and confusion is the ruler. It can get so complex that no one knows the core problem of why this person is being ugly to another. When no one steps in and deals with the bullying on both sides of the spectrum, then the problems will not resolve on their own. Both the bully and the victim needs help.

As we all throughout the world continue down our economic problems, we all need be apart of our community in just about every way. Ever wondered how a small town can have less problems than a larger one? One of the biggest ways is that everyone knows everyone else in that small town. In effect, they work together and help each other out. Why do the people of a big town of people do the same thing? Can they live the same way as people in the small town?

I think they can if they want to bad enough. There is a very old saying, “Anything worth having is not easy.” If we all want to have our economy grow forward, then we all need to work harder at it. That is right, all of us can work hard. We all must do our part. Government can only do so much. If the Preamble of the Constitution of the United States of America says, “WE THE PEOPLE…,” then we must all do our part in society.

We all can prevent abuse of any kind if we step in when it is needed of us to do so. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away. For a flower to grow, it must be first planted, deal with the weeds when they come up, water the plant, etc. All this work is from the one responsible of the plant. The plant cannot do all of this work.

In a society, everyone must do their part. There are some things that cannot be achieved until there are full cooperation of the community. The complexity of life is far too great. Understanding your neighbor is needed for all in the community to function properly. A business can make the building, roads, and all that makes up a city, but it takes everyone to make all of these creations function as they should.

There are more abuse in the home than all the crimes combined. All these abuse activities in the home can be stopped. I cannot state this enough, “How many times have neighbors turned their heads on abusive activities, next door or across the street?" How many crimes that do get on the news and on the media could have been prevented if the source was dealt with before the crime was committed?” Every action has an opposite equal reaction. The simplest bullying activities can lead to a cascading effects that could have been prevented if only we could be dealing with both the bully and the victim right than and there.

Children are not born to hate or abuse other. They are taught this by the activities they learned in the home. For a child to hear mommy and daddy constantly yelling at each other does more damage than a physical attack on them. Beating a child is very horrible, but it is nothing to the emotional scares through hearing mommy and daddy yelling at each other.

Signs of Child Abuse

In solve any problems in life, it takes understanding. That is how you solve the core issues of the problem. If you have a disgusting pile of garbage with all sorts of fowl things on it, the garbage will not stop being awful. If it is only dealt by making it look prettier, another words only deal with the surface, then the problem will only get worse.

The core solution in this case would be to get rid of the garbage. To solve bullying is a lot more complex than dealing with garbage. Human beings are complex in themselves. Everyone is different than the other. That is why a small town has less problems than a bigger town. Everyone knows the other. When a small problem comes to the surface, it can be easily dealt with before in can escalate into something bigger.

We all need to use the MISS (Make it Simple Stupid) and KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid) methods in life. If we do not make the complex things in our life simple, then we end up wearing the dunce cone hat on our heads. Life is never easy. if it was easy, where would the motivation be in life? Life would be so humdrum that there would not be any reason to achieve anything in life.

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Therapists Use Virtual Worlds to Address Real Problems: Scientific American

2009-04-06T14:45:00.001-04:00

After reading this article, I have to admit i was intrigued. How easier it is to talk about our inter most problems when someone is not looking at us. I guess it is the same ideology of why we can talk in a crowd verses talking in front of a group of people.

When someone has been abused in any way, they need to talk to someone that can help them. The cascading effect of the abuse will turn inward and the victim will become the one that does more abuse towards oneself than anything else. I have read that a little girl that is raped by her drunken father can put herself in an imaginary world to escape the trauma of the sexual abuse.

When this little girl becomes an adult that defense she used will be a destructive disaster for her. What is called sexual addiction is a misnomer. What these people are seeking is love and not sex. These victims might see that sex can be a means of expressing love, but they cannot get it through trying to turn what they been through into love.

Women struggle with Sex Addiction too

How easy abused people try their best to change their abusers. Why do wives stay with their husbands if they constantly abuse them in every way? I think they see no hope other than turning back the clock to the point in time when they were not abused. When we all love another, we do sacrifice a lot of our individuality for the love we have for that person. When they turn on us, it feels that death is at the door.

I felt that way when I divorced many years ago. Now I am a new person and very happy and excited about my future. This of course does not mean I do not problems in my life. My point is I can understand to some point how it feels to be ripped from oneself. That is why abuse is so bad. The abuser, which is usually someone they know, can completely and destroy the soul of the victim.

Think about it: If someone does not know a person and they yell and do other abuse tactics, the victim will run off and get help. When it is a family member or a very close friend, they are shocked and horrified by the attack. The abuser usually will keep their victim from escaping, or they could not rightfully control them.

When or if these victims do escape from the abuse, they have to seek help from the abuse, or they will be attacking themselves from the fallout of the abuse. If more people realize how devastating this crime is towards another, more neighbors will be calling the police to put an end to it. That is the purpose of this blog. To speak out on behalf of all that have been abused. The abuse will not go away on its own. It usually gets worse. We need to report it if we know it is going on.

Forget the statistics of how many do commit suicide over an abuse life. If it is just one, that is one person too many. Unfortunately it is more then one. Once the crime is stopped, it is not the end for the victim. The next page is for the victim to talk out their feelings over this abuse, or it will not be put in the history books for the victim.

Put yourself if you can in the shoes or skin of these victims. Can any of us easily talk to someone over what has been faced? By the used of another skin or mask, we can share more of our deep feelings due to the security behind the mask. It is one thing talking on some by Instant Messenger than using an 3-D avatar to represent us as an individual.

When we talk about who we are and how we feel behind this avatar we do not feel vulnerable. Our shield is that avatar. It is very important that these victims share all of what they feel regarding their abuse to their therapists. The abuse is not the fault of the victims, but if they do not let go of all these horrible feelings that is what the victims will do, blame themselves.

That fantasy world that a child constantly goes to when her father sexual assaults her, will be what she will use against herself as an adult. She will abuse herself a lot worse than what her father did to her if she does not go to a therapist and shares her deep horrible feelings on this issue.

Until neighbors do call the police, the abusers will go free while the victims will go through constant hell. We must stop all forms of abuse at the moment we see it or hear it in action. The quicker the better it is for the victims. No end in sight for the victims until others act against it. Instead the neighbors turn off the lights and ignore as nothing is happening. When you are abused one day, the same thing will happen to your neighbors. This trend must change.

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Therapists Use Virtual Worlds to Address Real Problems: Scientific American

Psychological abuse - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

2009-04-04T22:00:00.001-04:00

One may state that one type of an abuse is worse than the other. I can tell you none of it is true. The worse abuse that can be bestowed on a person is what the victim of an abuse can do to him/herself. That is right. That is the main reason that being abusive is so dangerous. It can turn a successful happy person into the worst enemy one can face.

Don't Hide It - Emotional Abuse

Don't Hide It – Bullying

When one is abused by another, the one that is being abused thinks the world is against him or her. They think there is no hope, or the suicide rate would not be all that high in regards to bullying or any other form of abuse. Why do the ones that have been abuse want to end it all? They did not do anything to deserve this abuse. Just the same the ones that have been abused end up thinking they are worthless. If anyone does not see hope for their lives, then what hope do they have?

Spite all encouragements one can give, it does not change how they feel in the abuse situation until they are out of the abuse situation. The real damage of an abuse is the damage from within. Believe it or not, we humans are creatures that needs be loved and love others in return. When our love ones, friends, or whomever takes that away from us, it is life worse than any horror movie Hollywood can com up with.

What makes so many want to hate others? A lot of times it might be due to how they were treated in the home. Believe it or not, what a child learns in the home will stay with them all their lives. If hate, abuse, neglect, etc. are the only things shown in the home, then that is what the child will learn. It might be due to overwhelming of love. A spoiled child will act like a brat in life during childhood and adulthood.

There are more to do as a parent then just loving their children. Human beings are the most complex creatures on the face of the Earth. We are born to be loved at birth and even as adults. By the love we have of family and friends, we can master just about anything in life to the point our path in life requires. Another words, no one cannot do everything in life. Though, we could do a lot more if we are given the opportunity to do so.

Abuse takes away freewill to take up the opportunities we could have accomplished. In the years of removing all the scare tissue of the soul from a victim of abuse, it could have easily been used to push forward of ones life. The years taken away and the years in recovery of an abuse can never be given back. I wonder if the victims of an abuse see this? Could it be why they see their lives so much of a failure?

With the feeling of helplessness of being abused on a constant basis does not make the victim see day light around the corner. Faith has been stolen and hope has been raped. As the abuser continues to attack, no wonder the victim cannot see any positive activities in their future.

emotional abuse

Children are not the only ones being abused. From children to adults. No one is immune to this horrible act against life. It can destroy human lives worse then the atom bomb. Believe it or not, there is hope. We all can put an end to it before it gets started. How many times have we neglected to call the police knowing that an abuse situation was accruing? We must start to speak out for the ones that are being abused, or no one will.

This horrific crime can be easily be prevented if we start to speak out for these victims. Everyone has a right to a full and complete life. If we do not speak for these victims of abuse, then these individuals will not have a full and complete life. Picture yourself as these victims. If you know a neighbor is listening, would you want them to call for help?

That is the reason I am writing This blog. I am that voice that screams out under all the pitch black darkness of the souls of many that have fallen prey to a life of torment that they themselves had no cause at all in it. Just the same, their lives are trapped in chains that they cannot remove on their own. Little boys and girls of all ages are enslaved by the ones that holds the whip of complete and ultra despair. These crimes go unpunished because that next door neighbor that was woken up in the middle of the night due to an abuse act and did not call for help.

Abuse is more than a crime

Blessed Be to Isis and you,

Real Name: Brandon Bowers

Psychological abuse - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Unconditional love - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

2009-04-01T14:22:00.001-04:00

Love is the key to life. If anything that is an energy force that surrounds all living things, that bind the galaxy as said on the Force of the Star Wars movies, then it would be love. True and unconditional love is actually a lot stronger and powerful then the Force.

How can one concept have so much unlimited energy. How can people love so many and continue to love more and more? Where does this energy come from? What is this thing called love? If most religions foundations are based on love, then why are the followers of these religions do not live by unconditional love and tolerance?

Believe it or not, ignorant people put labels on things that they do not understand. What is wrong with labels. Everything must have a name and be categorized. Science does this all the time. When one starts to use labels for people and ideas that are different than who they are and what they believe, then it is a form of bullying, abuse, and hatred.

Why do so many kids bully someone that is different. Believe it or not, children are born with tolerance and are very accepting of others. Children do not judge or isolate others due to their differences. If this is true, and it is, then how did they all of the sudden change? In a child's development, the first five years of a child's life is the most important part of their life. That means a child learns to be intolerant from their own parents.

It is the child that suffer from bullying that are taught to tolerate and respect others differences. When these children are chastised and mistreated by all in a school, they do not have hate in them to fight back. This does not mean that the victims of bullying are sissies or weak people. Even adults suffer from bullying and other abuses.

It is not the fault of the victim if someone attacks them. Even if they might have provoked others, that is no excuse. The bully has the freewill to not react. Sad to say that most bullying and abuser in the home, on a child, had nothing to do with the child or victim. Instead of abusing someone, why not learn to at least tolerate others differences.

I have heard many times that love is an emotion. If it is so hard to love, then it has to be something more powerful than a feeling. If that is the case most women that are abused in every way in a marriage would not want to hold on to the husband that is beating her physically, emotionally, and every other abuse put on her. Most women thinks that their love for their husbands can change things. Reality check....not going to happen.

If these husbands had the thought of love for their wives they are abusing, then they would not be doing all these horrible things to them in the first place. We all make mistakes. None of us can avoid it, but there is a difference in learning from our mistakes and not giving a damn in the consequences of our mistakes.

Spite that we will continue to make mistakes or not is no excuse for having others abuse us in any mannerism. Each and everyone of us are different than another. There are no two people alike. We do not think alike, believe alike, or anything else. Human beings are unique creatures. In the over 6 billion people on Earth, not one is alike. How powerful is that in the grandness of life?

As I have stated, "There are religions that do not tolerate differences." I left Christianity on May 2007 because so many, not all, presented hate, intolerance, and everything 180 degrees different than what the Word of God teaches. I personally could not be apart of that organization any longer. I cannot say if I am better or worse, but I refuse to associate with anyone that would hate others due to their differences.

Who is to say that these differences are wrong? Who cares? What is right and what is wrong in the bloody first place? There is a place for social morals in a given society, but what others do in their private lives is completely and totally up to them. Laws are to serve and protect. They are not meant to govern people lives for them.

Right now hatred by religious people has done more crimes against humanity than anything else in life, but the laws do more in protecting the bullying and abusing of these radical religions, Christianity as the worse, than protecting the victims of religious abuse. All one has to do is watch the local new enough, or read the local new paper, and see the unjust of Christians bullying others in following their ways of life.

So you call yourself a Christian

Not all Christians are like this, thank God, but there are far too many that go out of their way to stick their noses into just about all walks of life. Who is to say that only one path is right for all? The old saying, "All roads leads to Rome." This means that each and everyone of sees God differently, but it does not mean that because of those differences that they are going down the wrong path is faith.

I am now a Wiccan, a solitary one. I go down my own path in my own way. I take up the responsibilities of my own actions. I do not allow others to live my life for me, nor do I live for others. Who I am to say how someone else should live?

The Thirteen Principals of Wiccan Belief

As far as this blog posting is concerned, my point is that bullying comes from all fronts in life. Religious bullying comes from pride and arrogance that is far more damaging than any type of abuse. In history's past, people have been tortured and murdered in the name of God. If today's Christians could get away with it, would they do the same thing? I strongly think so.

If no one had restraint in life, then who could stop them from any horrible crimes? Bullying is the closest thing a human being can do upon another without actually brutally murdering that person or persons. Actually these bullies are cutting their victims to ribbons, but no visible scars to show them of their exploits. Bullying is the most cowardly of acts. The bully does murder its victims, soul murder.

Bullying Kills

It is better to love someone that is different than you are and what you believe in then to hate them. It may be easier to hate, due to there is no discipline nor strength in hating. To love someone unconditionally does take a lot for the one that is doing the loving. Love is a thought. When we all go through tough times in our economy downfalls, we must think under pressure of it all. Love has more meaning than our economic failures. Like I said, "Love is stronger than the Force that any Jedi Knight can yield."

Blessed Be to Isis and you,

Real Name: Brandon Bowers

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Verbal abuse - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

2009-03-30T13:15:00.001-04:00

Do not kid yourself, words hurt. They can hurt a child or an adult. Being tuff is not allowing others to verbally abuse you in every direction. If you as a citizen of any country, you have the right to defend yourself of a physical attack. What is the difference in a verbal attack? Words can hurt worse than any physical attack. The verbal abuser does not see the hurt on its victims.

If words are like a two-edged sword, then each word is like being cut open multiple times. The words can echo for a life time. Spite how many times a person may think he/she is ignoring those words and the hurt, it is actually doing more damage. Denial is the first defense, but it is not a good one. When one is verbally abused, they must realize the reality of it. Denial will not make the hurt or the two-edge sword words go away.

Stop verbal abuse

If at anytime we need legal help, it is when we are abused in any way. It is true that one is innocent until proven guilty, but that does not excuse that abuse, including verbal abuse. I would like to see anti-abuse ads on television and other media formats showing the victim of verbal abuse call 911 or get legal help in the abuse. The ad also needs to show the police dealing with this abuser in a legal manner. By this, the victims of any abuse can have the courage of getting legal help.

If you're getting verbal abuse

There are more abuse in the homes that are kept quiet. Laws are to serve and protect, but the law cannot protect if these crimes are not reported. If it is a love one that is doing the abuse, it is better for them to serve jail time, then for a person to continually suffer in an abuse relationship. Believe it or not, Most neighbors can stop an abusive husband or whomever just by calling 911. If more and more realize how words can hurt, then more would contact the local authorities.

This is a very serous thing. It is a serious crime, and it must be stopped. It can be stopped by you. Do not directly deal with it yourself. Call the police, report bullying activities to online services where they are being posted, and report it to the schools if it is done within the school campus. If is done at work, report it to the next highest authority. Bosses can be bullies too. Bullying is not just a form of abuse, it is an abuse.

Celebrities on YouTube to beat bullying

Children needs our help more than ever. Children are very intelligent beings, but they do not have the means to protect themselves from any abuse. One might be very surprised how many times we ignore abuse from parents to children right in public. The worse of it all, neighbors have on a constant basis have ignored abusive activities. The yelling and screaming of mom and dad can do serious damage to a child. Children or not, all types of verbal attacks that even a neighbor can here should be reported. It is a crime!

This crime will only get worse if someone does not help put an end to it. Every human being around the world no matter what country they are born in or live in has the right to a complete and full life. Bullying or any other abuse destroys that opportunity. Think about it: That child if allowed to live out his/her own life could be the next President of any country. That person could be a doctor or medical professional that could cure cancer.

The possibilities are endless on what one could have done if they were not enslaved over these horrific crimes. Think if J. K. Rolling, the author of "Harry Potter," was so traumatized of over an abuse life. I am not saying that abuse victims have not recovered from their nightmares, but so many have not. Would J. K. Rolling been able to write what she had if her life went through such trauma?

If we all are given the freedom and liberties without any crimes that could have been prevented from the start, what more could these victims of bullying or any other abuse could do in their own lives. Just the same, these serious crimes goes unpunished. These crimes need to be taking very seriously.

Blessed Be to Isis and you,

Real Name: Brandon Bowers

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Miller, No Visible Wounds: Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men (Random House Publishing Group).
Evans, Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond, 2nd ed. (Adams Media Corporation).

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Why do people want to hurt others? It appears to me that most that do bully others have been mistreated themselves as a means of fighting their own demons, or find some sort of recognition by power and control. Surly the bully realizes that this will not bring happiness.

There are people out there that simply want to hurt others. They simply have a very warped sense of ideologies that do not fit the norms of life. This comes down to a great question: What are the proper norms of life? If the majority of bullying in schools by children are done as a reflect of how they are treated, then who is the victim? What is the solution to bullying?

The proper norms of life is something that all religions, faith, and natural ideologies have been saying all along, love. Children are born to love. They need love in return. Even when a child has been abused in every way in the home by its parents, they still want to be with them due to that love they have for them. Same goes for a wife that has been abused by her husband. We need love. That is why bullying hurts. It is the direct opposite of love.

Being anti-bulling is not teaching children to be sissies. Love is much more powerful than that. Actually true love is strength. What real power does a bully have? The power that the bully has is powerful, but it is very short lived. One day the bully will find there is a bigger fish in the sea. The end result in bullying is a dead end, and I strongly believe the bully knows that.

So why to people bully others, including parents in the home?

Child Abuse

That is right. Bullying is a form of child abuse. Many might think that bullying is done by children only. The sad truth is that is not true. Child molesters are bullies. If child abuse is against the law, then why do the law makers make the parents responsible in governing their own children regarding bullying?

When I was young, I remember watching a television commercial on how parents can use words to hurt their own children. I think the biggest abuse is parental neglect. When parents are not during their jobs as they should as parents, then that builds up walls that should not be there at all. It so important that parents make their children a giant part of their lives.

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As the old saying goes, "It all starts in the home." What the children learn in the home will make all the difference. When children do not get anything from the home, then they will grab the wrong ideas of life. The right intimacy is needed. The wrong way is sex that ends up with STDs, unwanted pregnancy, and all the other nightmares that are the results of these bad decisions.

How many have finally broken down when they are constantly given information that they are worthless and useless? Even with all that abuse in childhood, there is still hope. There is another old saying, "Where there is life, there is hope." In this blog, I am hoping to show all the reasons why bullying needs to be stomped out. I also will do my best to show ways that can help even the adults that have been through all forms of abuse in enlighten their lives so they can push forward.

Blessed Be to Isis and you,

Real Name: Brandon Bowers

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